MARRIAGE AND RE-MARRIAGE, HOW TO HAVE A CHRISTIAN HOME?

MARRIAGE AND RE-MARRIAGE, HOW TO HAVE A CHRISTIAN HOME?

Benson Omole (Min.)

WHAT IS MARRIAGE?

1. Legal relationship between spouses: a legally recognized relationship, established by a civil or religious ceremony, between two people who intend to live together as sexual and domestic partners

2.  Specific marriage relationship: a married relationship between two people, or somebody's relationship with his or her spouse

3.  Joining in wedlock: the joining together in wedlock of two people

4.  Marriage ceremony: the ceremony in which two people are joined together formally in wedlock

5.  Union of two things: a close union, blend, or mixture of two things

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SINCE MARRIAGE IS ONE OF THE HANDIWORK OF GOD, THEN TRUE MARRIAGE DEFINITION, MUST BE SOUGHT FROM GOD, ONLY!!!

THE BIBLE DEFINITION OF MARRIAGE.

NATURE OF CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE.

a.       MARRIAGE IS A UNION OF A MALE, AND A FEMALE.

b.      MARRIAGE IS BETWEEN ADULT MALE, AND ADULT FEMALE.

c.       MARRIAGE, NOT FOR CHILDREN!

d.      MARRIAGE IS A UNION, AND NOT A CONTRACT.

e.       MARRIAGE IS A LIFELONG COMMITMENT.

f.        MARRIAGE REQUIRES CONSTANT ADJUSTMENTS, PERSEVERANCE, AND PATIENCE SO AS TO FUSE, AND BLEND TOGETHER.

g.       IN MARRIAGE, THE MAN HEADS THE HOME. THE WIFE SUBMITS. EPH.5:22, 23.

h.      MARRIAGE IS THE DESIRED PLACE, TO BRING FORTH, AND REAR CHILDREN.

i.        MARRIAGE IS FOR MORTALS, HENCE, THERE IS NO MARRIAGE IN HEAVEN. MATT.22:30.

j.        GOD IS THE ONLY ONE, WHO JOINS, IN MARRIAGE.

k.       SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP IS NOT SINFUL, IF DONE IN THE MARRIAGE.

l.        MARRIAGE IS NOT WEDDING, DIFFERENT FROM THE CEREMONY.

m.    MARRIAGE IS MORE THAN LEGAL RELATIONSHIP.

n.      MARRIAGE UNION TAKES PLACE ON THE BED, FIRST NIGHT.

o.      GENDER OF CANDIDATES IN MARRIAGE IS SPECIFIED BY GOD.

MARRIAGE DEFINED! PARTIES IN THE MARRIAGE!
GENESIS 2:24-25.

PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE.

a.       FOR COMPANIONSHIP. GEN.2:18.

b.      FOR PROCREATION. GEN.1:28.

c.       TO AVOID ACTIONS OF FORNICATION, 1COR. 7:1-2.

d.      TO EXEMPLIFY PERFECTLY, THE MARITAL RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN CHRIST, AND HIS CHURCH. EPH. 5

HELPFUL CONDITIONS BEFORE MARRIAGE.

a.       THE MAN MUST HAVE THE ABILITY TO PROVIDE FOR HIS FAMILY.

b.      BOTH MUST HAVE THE CAPACITY TO ESTABLISH AN INDEPENDENT (autonomous) HOME.

c.       BOTH MUST HAVE THE BASIC KNOWLEDGE OF MARRIAGE, BEFORE ENTERING INTO IT.

d.      ARE YOU OLD ENOUGH? ONE’S BODY MUST BE PHYSICALLY MATURED.

e.       MARRIAGE REQUIRES A PERSON TO BE MORALLY UPRIGHT TO KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG.

f.        A PERSON IS NOT SPIRITUALLY MATURE ENOUGH TO MARRY UNTIL HE OR SHE REALIZES THAT GOD IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANY PERSON ON EARTH.

g.       WE MUST BE EMOTIONALLY PREPARED BEFORE WE CAN HOPE TO BE HAPPILY MARRIED.

h.      IN CONCLUSION, LET US REMEMBER THAT A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE REQUIRES PREPARATION. BEFORE GETTING INVOLVED, PEOPLE MUST BE PREPARED PHYSICALLY, MORALLY, SPIRITUALLY, ECONOMICALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY.

SELF CHECK

a.       Am I ready to make a lifelong commitment?

b.      Am I ready to make adjustments?

c.       Do I have basic life skills?

d.      What do I have to offer?

e.       Can I be faithful, to the end?

f.        Can I endure hardship, insults and misbehavior from my Spouse?

g.       Can I share my properties with my Spouse?

WHAT TO LOOK FOR, BEFORE MARRIAGE?

1.      ELIGIBILITY. (Who Is Eligible  To Marry?)

a.       One who has never married? Mt. 19:4-6;  1 Cor. 7:2

b.      One whose mate has died.  Rom. 7:2-3; 1 Cor. 7:39

c.       One who has divorced a mate for reason of fornication.  Mt. 19:9

2.      SPIRITUALITY (Spiritual Status)

a.       Faith:  Gen 6; Deut. 7; 2Cor.6.

b.      Commitment to faith.

c.       Church attendance.

d.      Participation in the worship.

e.       Practice of faith.

f.        Scriptural understanding.

g.       Fear of God.

h.      Zeal of faith.

i.        Ability to pray.

j.        Helpful in the faith.

3.      CHARACTER: Product Of Innate Attitude, Character, and Disposition.

a.       Use of tongue.

b.      Lying tongue, Jam3:13; Prov. 15:2-4

c.       Strange tongue, Matt 12:34

d.      Flattery tongue, Luke 6: 45

e.       Abusive tongue.

f.        Lover of the world. Prov. 6: 17-24 money; food; pool betting; football; draft game; motor car; friends;

g.       Readiness to fight anyone.

h.      TEMPERAMENT.

i.        HARDWORKING OR LAZY.

4.      BACKGROUND

a.       PARENTAL HOME.

b.      HEALTH ISSUES.

c.       COMPATIBLE BACKGROUND

5.      PERSONALITY & INTEREST. WHATEVER YOU LIKE IN A WOMAN, OR IN A MAN:

a.       EDUCATION.

b.      VOCATION.

c.       Place of ORIGIN.

d.      COMPLEXION.

e.       HEIGHT.

f.        STYLE.

g.       SPEECH.

h.      Social Class, and Status.

6.      PHYSICAL ATTRACTION.

a.       WHATEVER YOU LIKE IN A WOMAN, OR IN A MAN:

b.      BEAUTY.

c.       SIZE.

d.      FASIONABLE.

e.       ARTIFICIAL.

f.        NATURAL. ETC…

RESPONSIBILITIES AT HOME (HUSBAND).

1.       MUST LOVE WIFE ABOVE ALL.

2.       MUST HONOUR WIFE.

3.       MUST PROVIDE FOR HIS HOME.

4.       MUST TRAIN, AND BRING UP CHILDREN WITH LOVE.

5.       MUST SET GOOD EXAMPLES FOR HIS FAMILY.

6.       MUST PROTECT FAMILY FROM EXTERNAL DANGER, AND AGGRESSION.

7.       MUST USE WISDOM TO RELATE WITH WIFE.

8.       MUST LEAD FAMILY, SPIRITUALY BEFORE GOD, IN PRAYERS, AND ADMONITIONS ETC.

9.       MUST RENDER DUE BENEVOLENCE TO WIFE, REGULARLY.

10.   MUST SUBMIT TO WIFE, ALSO.

11.   MUST HAVE BASIC KNOWLEDGE OF FEMINISM.

12.   MUST RULE HIS HOME VERY WELL.

13.   MUST ACCEPT THAT HE IS THE HEAD.

14.   MUST LIVE WITH HIS FAMILY.

15.   MUST RUN THE CHRISTIAN RACE TOGETHER WITH HIS FAMILY.

16.   MUST ACKNOWLEDGE THAT GOD ORDAINED AND MAKE LAWS FOR THE MARRIAGE.

17.   MUST HAVE BASIC SKILL OF PARENTING.

RESPONSIBILITIES AT HOME (WIFE).

1.       MUST SUBMIT TO OWN HUSBAND.

2.       MUST LOVE HUSBAND ABOVE ALL.

3.       MUST BE OBIDIENT TO HER HUSBAND.

4.       MUST LOVE CHILDREN, ALSO.

5.       MUST BE A HELPER INDEED, AT HOME.

6.       MUST HAVE BASIC KNOWLEDGE OF PARENTING.

7.       MUST ALSO RENDER DUE BENEVOLENCE TO HUSBAND AT HOME.

8.       MUST BE A COVERING FOR HER HUSBAND.

9.       MUST RULE HER CHILDREN VERY WELL.

10.   HER HUSBAND MUST BE HER ‘LORD’.

11.   MUST BE A COMPANION, WITH HER HUSBAND, IN THE CHRISTIAN RACE.

12.   MUST ACCEPT THE BIBLICAL MARRIAGE PATTERN, AND THE LAWS, AS ORDAINED BY GOD.

13.   MUST LIVE TOGETHER WITH HUSBAND.

14.   MUST SET GOOD EXAMPLES FOR THE CHILDREN.

15.   MUST HONOUR HUSBAND.

16.   IF HUSBAND IS NOT IN THE FAITH, SHE MUST LABOUR FOR HIS SALVATION.

17.   MUST TAKE DECISIONS WITH THE CONSENT OF HUSBAND.

18.   MUST BE A HOUSE KEEPER.

19.   WE MUST UNDERSTAND THE SCRIPTURAL MANUAL OF MARRIAGE, AS CODIFIED IN THE BIBLE.

IF WE DO, THEN WE SHALL HAVE THE PEACE IN OUR MARRIAGES, AS ORDAINED BY GOD.

IF WE STILL HAVE PROBLEMS, IN OUR HOMES, IT IS MAINLY BECAUSE WE HAVE NOT OBEYED THE WORD OF GOD, IN OUR MARRIAGES!!!

WHAT FOUNDATION MUST YOUR HOME BE BUILT UPON?

"Therefore whosoever hears these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I liken him unto a wise man, who built his house upon a rock: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock…”    Matthew 7: 24-27.

a.        WHAT FOUNDATION IS YOU HOME BUILT UPON?

b.       WE MUST UNDERSTAND THE SCRIPTURAL MANUAL OF MARRIAGE, AS CODIFIED IN THE BIBLE.

c.        IF WE DO, THEN WE SHALL HAVE THE PEACE IN OUR MARRIAGES, AS ORDAINED BY GOD.

d.       IF WE STILL HAVE PROBLEMS, IN OUR HOMES, IT IS MAINLY BECAUSE WE HAVE NOT OBEYED THE WORD OF GOD, IN OUR MARRIAGES!!!

PROBLEMS, AND SOLUTIONS.

a.        Galatians 6:2: "Bear you one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.“

b.       Galatians 2:11-14. Face-to-face frankness, in the right spirit would help the marriage.

c.        Matthew 18:15-17. Jesus said that a person who has been wronged should go to the one who offended him and discuss the matter directly.

d.       James 1:19. Be "quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger."

e.        James 5:16. "confess your faults one to another.“

f.         Ephesians 4:32. "be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you” 

BIBLE LAW OF DIVORCE, AND REMARRIAGE.

1.        DEUTERONOMY 24:1.

2.        MALACHI 2:14, 16.

3.        MATTHEW 5:31-32.

4.        MARK 10:11-12.

5.        LUKE 16:18.

6.        MATTHEW 19:6-9.

7.        ROMANS 7:1-3

8.        1CORINTHIANS 7: 12, 25, 40.

THANK YOU VERY MUCH, FOR YOUR ATTENTION. MAY OUR GOD, THE ALMIGHTY, BLESS HIS WORD IN OUR HEARTS, AMEN!

WHAT FOUNDATION IS YOU HOME BUILT UPON?                                                                                                                          "Therefore whosoever hears these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I liken him unto a wise man, who built his house upon a rock: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock…”    Matthew 7: 24-27.